But what happens when its a fellow cub that is causing the pain. What happens when fists fly and the fun wrestling takes on a new flavor of determination to harm,control.
Our den is a calm peaceful one. Yelling is not something we do. It is Summer so there is less scheduled time and more of a chance to get under one anothers' skin or to play leisurely board games….in my mind, that is.
But I digress……
My teen boys enjoy gaming and they share….most of the time. However, on this rainy evening I got a note under my office door. It said "The boys are attacking each other and it doesn't look good." Grace.
(imperative to have a spy at all times…reward them well…)
Once I came upon the scene the damage had been done. One cub was out walking in his garden talking to his tomato plants and the other was tearing at the computer but not wanting me to see.
It was over a girl….a virtual one but a girl on a server none the less. Tempers flared and big cub took the small younger one to the floor with a arm hold and made sure he understood who was in charge.
After talking to each and getting the full story we all ate dinner…..I believe it is import to clear my head before I launch into a "coaching moment".
Moon Bear and I lightening the mood before we excused the girls from the table so we could talk with the boys.
After letting each of them explain the situation and each one getting their chance to be heard. They were both punished for not walking away and calming down or coming to get adult help.
And then….I got angry.
I had no idea how impactful this next few moments were going to be, but parents!! use this!! It was amazing!
"If you ever lay a hand on my kid again. " "I promise you that you will feel the same pain and humiliation." "He is mine! and you will never do that again."
The look on both of their faces. One was fear…the other…pure love.
They both learned something.
Blessings.
