I watched TGwtDT with a group of friends. One of the gals choose it. I tried to stay and watch the whole thing…I did not want to offend them. NOPE! After the kitty was..well..you ..knOw..I was out!
I was recently reminded of this misunderstood main character. I felt so sorry for her and yet she was a BaDa$$. She took care of herself and she was smart. Her appearance was scary. Her piercings , her hair, her tattoos. Sets up a certain image that sends a very define message…stay away! DANGEROUS!
When I see kids with piercing and crazy hair I tend to think the same thing. I get an image in my head about who the person is. I judge them. Not something I am proud of, but it is true. I assume they have a drug issue a bad family life and no way are they still in school let alone a good student. Maybe this is showing my age. Maybe I am too republican. Maybe it's just what I have experienced.
AnD then…my beauty dyed her hair blonde…Cute..stylish..edgy.
She has always had her own style. She wears combat boots and knit hats ,that her grandmother makes her. She gets good grades..AP classes , Honors classes and is an amazing big sister.
AnD then….she dyed her hair purple…now that was a punishment. Our rule is natural colors…But it was still really cute…kinda like Elsa…from Frozen.
AnD then…she got a septum piercing…that nose ring that looks like a bull ring..not as cute..but I dont see it anymore and she can turn it inside when she goes to work or when I ask her to…this is my least fav of her self expression moves..but it isn't permanent.
That is the key…NOT Permanent.
October 11, 1996……do the math
Yep…big 18th bday is right around the corner…..
AnD then….the girl with the tattoo……………….Crap.
Friends…I am lost on this one. My first instinct is heck no. A choice like this is for the rest of your life. What about jobs? What about what other people will think about you?….pause….
Did you see what I just said…What about the judgement that the World is going to place on you.? What about the fact that people are going to expect a certain behavior from you based on what you look like? What about making your way easier? Clearing the path for success without placing obstacles in your own path. Swimming up stream sucks.
Then again…she is 18. She is a good girl. She has done everything we have required of her. At what point to I challenge my own paradigm?
The energy that I have put into this is boarding on obsessive. I have three other children and a husband. My bandwidth is getting used up on this one topic and on this one child. Sounds horrid? Maybe….or maybe its the truth. We can get used up….worn down.
We have talked about the cost and the placement. There are no secrets. But what we have not done is said no. Not that we dont ..alot. But, this one is personal. She is an artist. When her grandfather asked her why she wanted a tattoo. She said "Because art is a part of me. I can not think of a better way to honor that part of me , then to have it entwined with my body."
OK then……………
October 11, …..its coming up fast.
October 11,…..when do you let them fly?
October 11,…..when do you challenge yourself to not judge?
